Many people view their parents as superhero’s, especially during childhood. I’m sure you can think back to a time where you thought your dad was invincible and where your mom had endless energy. When we were young, it seemed as if our parents could withstand any situation, no matter how difficult it was or how bad it hurt.

But now that we’re adults, we realize that our parents were not actual superhero’s…they just hid things well and did not allow us to see their weaknesses.

But hang on for a second, where did we get this idea that parents cannot show weakness and must always be tough? What does the Bible have to say about enduring hardships and difficulties? While there are many passages that speak to this, let’s take a look at 1 Peter 4:12-16. Here’s what Peter says,

“12 Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. 13 But rejoice insofar as you share Christ’s sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed. 14 If you are insulted for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the Spirit of glory and of God rests upon you. 15 But let none of you suffer as a murderer or a thief or an evildoer or as a meddler. 16 Yet if anyone suffers as a Christian, let him not be ashamed, but let him glorify God in that name.”

There are a few observations we can make from this passage that help us understand how parents can be an example to their kids on how to follow Jesus and suffer well.

  1. Be ready. Peter says “hey fam, don’t be shocked when you go through the fire!” It’s like this…when you know a hurricane is coming you take the necessary steps to storm-proof your house. Boarding up windows, sandbags, etc. Spiritually speaking, how can you prepare for the next life-storm? Praying or reading God’s word more, engaging in Christian community, etc. Take steps now to grow deeper faith roots in Christ so you can stand firm later on.
  2. Rejoice. I know this is counter-intuitive but follow me here. When you experience suffering because of your faith, that is a reminder that you are a threat to Satan. It is a reminder that you are a child of God who He wants to use to further His kingdom. So yes, rejoice. Not because you love to suffer…you’re not a psycho! But because it’s a reminder of the frontline battle you’re in for the Kingdom of God. Soldiers who never come under fire aren’t engaged in combat. They’re not in the trenches. The spiritual fire you come under for the sake of Christ is evidence that you’re fighting the good fight and pushing back darkness through the power of the living God and His Holy Spirit.
  3. Watch Yourself. Here’s what I mean…Peter tells his readers that if they’re going to suffer, suffer for the right things, not because you acted a fool and did something wrong! I’m sure we all can think back to a time when we suffered…but it wasn’t persecution…it was a spanking from our parents! Sometimes our suffering can be self-inflicted. Loved ones, keep a careful watch over yourself. Don’t suffer because you’re facing the consequences of foolish decisions. Don’t be ashamed if you suffer for Christ, either. Instead, glorify God!

To wrap things up, you can set the example for your kids of how to suffer well if you strive to be ready, rejoice, and watch yourself. We may not be superhero’s who can withstand any trial or difficulty, but we can be godly examples to our families of how to follow Jesus and persevere through suffering.

You are loved!

Pastor Ethan